Lust is one of the emotions existing in nature. Which is responsible for the existence of Life on planet earth. Without Lust none of the animals would have involved in reproduction. Lust can be defined as a form of happiness experienced while having intercourse. But Lust is a very strong emotion which must be controlled, to tame the wild. Marriage is a set of laws to experience physical Lust between woman and man. Marriage creates good health which is possible with Loyalty and Gentleness. Lust is good with gentleness and Loyalty.
I think human mind is wild and crazy, has no boundaries, it is not tamed, and it can thus think and dream with infinite limitations. Thus we should stick to principals in order to have a healthy and controlled mind, body and soul. That is what we call as meditation, in other words cleansing and controlling our ideas and channelizing our thoughts in the right direction, to achieve our humble objective, with optimism, brotherhood, love and compassion. To walk on the right path of life. In other words, implementing meditation in our everyday life, also called as KARMA. What we sow is what we reap. It is very important to be a role model, so that others can follow on these foot prints.
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Monogamy, is a form of marriage in which an individual has only one spouse during their lifetime.
(From Wiki: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monogamy )
An husband would never want his wife, to sleep with another man. Similarly an wife would never want her husband, to sleep with another woman. Both of them promise to live their entire life together. They promise each-other to help and share everything. They promise to live a truthful humble life, never to lie to each other. To take care of each others health and wealth. To achieve happiness and prosperity with peace.
Marriage vows are promises each partner makes to the other, during a wedding ceremony. It consist of what characteristics each would bring in another, what do they look forward to in their Lives. Both the partners decide freely and without reservation, to give themselves to each other in marriage. They would honor each other as husband and wife for the rest of their lives. They would accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of society. Thus both join their right hands, and declare their marriage. Both promise to be truthful in good and bad times, In sickness and in health, to love and honor all the days of their lives. For better and worse, for richer and poorer, until death do them part. They exchange wedding rings as a sign of love and fidelity.
Have you ever wondered, why couples who are married a long time, begin to look a lot like each other? People, often unconsciously, mimic the facial expressions, of their spouses in a silent empathy and that, over the years, sharing the same expressions, shapes the face similarly. You begin to age together in the energy you share, throughout your marriage, and your faces begin to age accordingly.
NY Times publication:
http://www.nytimes.com/1987/08/11/science/long-married-couples-do-look-alike-study-finds.html
http://www.popsci.com/science/article/2011-10/fyi-why-do-old-married-couples-look-alike
The Seven Vows of Hindu Marriage: (Also known as Samskara, Saptapadi, or Seven Steps.)
These are beyond mere promises. Commitments of two souls to become one.
Seven pheras circles around fire to establish a ritual. The essence of this resides within couples hearts.
{ First phera vow }
May this couple be blessed with an abundance of resources and comforts, and be helpful to one another in all ways.
Couples Pray to the Gods for nourishing pure food and prosperity.
* The Husband requests his wife to offer him and their children, Food, Nourishment, welfare and happiness at all times.
* The Wife requests him to take the responsibility of, the household, food and finance.
{ Second phera vow }
May this couple be strong and complement one another.
This is for mental, physical and spiritual strength to lead a healthy life.
* The Groom requests her to fill him with strength and courage, so that together they can protect the household and their children.
* The Bride promises to fill his heart with courage and strength at sorrow.
That she would rejoice in his joys. She promises to please him at all times with sweet words.
And to take care of the family and the children. And requests him to love none other but her as his wife.
Together they would defend their family and home.
{ Third phera vow }
May this couple be blessed with prosperity and riches on all levels.
Prayer for preservation of wealth and prosperity in life.
* The Groom with her presence in his life, wishes their wealth and prosperity to grow more.
That he shall look upon all other woman as his sisters. They would educate their children to live a longer life.
* The Bride vows to love him with single minded devotion as her husband.
She will treat all other men as her brothers. Her devotion to him will be that of a pure wife.
They will be faithful to each other and lead a spiritual life.
{ Fourth phera vow }
May this couple be eternally happy.
The couple invokes the gods for joy and peace, by mutual love and trust in all walks of their life.
* The Groom says that her presence in his life is sacred and auspicious. May they be blessed with obedient and noble children with a long life.
* The Bride vows to enrich herself from head to toe, with sandalwood paste and fragrance for him.
To serve and please him in every possible way she can.
They declare their good fortune in marrying, and pray for a happy life and good children filled with all health and wealth.
{ Fifth round vow }
May this couple be blessed with a happy family life.
The couple appeals to the lords for the welfare, of all living beings in this world and wish for
virtuous, noble and heroic children.
* The Groom prays god to bless her and may their loved ones live long and share in their prosperity.
* The Bride vows to share his happiness and grief.
With his love in her life, she will trust and honor him. To fulfill all his wishes.
They prey for the happiness and well being of their family. To have righteous and obedient children.
May this couple live in perfect harmony, true to their personal values and their joint promises.
The couple prays the gods to give them a blissful life.
* The Groom requests her to fill his heart with joy and peace at all times.
* The Bride vows, in all righteous acts, in material prosperity, and in enjoyment of acts approved by the divine, to stand by him.
They will always be by each others side in their endeavors.
{ Seventh phera vow }
May this couple always be the best of friends.
The couple prays for mutual understanding, loyalty and companionship.
* The Groom prays their love and friendship is now eternal.
They have attained a spiritual union blessed by god. Now she is one with him and he offers his life to her. Thus wish their marriage will be forever.
* The Bride accepts, as per the laws of God and the sanctity of the holy scriptures, that she is his wife now. All promises they made, were made with a pure mind. They will be truthful to each other in all matters and they will love each other forever.
They will forever belong to each other, and will remain friends forever.
Traditionally it is believed that the FIRE (Agni) bears witness, to the taking of these seven vows.
Marriage is not a simple love affair, it's an ordeal to sacrifice the ego to a relationship, in which two have become one.
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In Hindu marriage the bride and groom come to the altar as God and Goddess, in human form.
In many parts of India the bride is considered Lakshmi, Goddess of Fortune.
And groom is her consort Vishnu, the Great Preserver.
The bride and groom walk down the aisle feeling divine.
Hindu wedding is full of rituals and traditions.
Marriages are definitely fascinating.
But Hindu weddings are really something to look out for.
Each and every ritual has a very deep meaning.
Saath Phere and Saat Kasam is something we speak about every now and then.
Let us look into the real meaning of seven Vows of Hindu wedding:
The bride and the groom take the first step of the seven vows and take an oath that they will together live a prospered life which is full of health and good deeds.
Anything that hinders this will be kept away.
Second of the seven pheras, have the promise to develop the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual powers.
During the third vow, the couple promises to earn a living and increase the material wealth so that they can live a good quality of life.
The fourth vow says that the couple should increase mutual love, faith and understanding.
The fifth vow is for the sake of having good children for whom they will be responsible.
The sixth step is for self-control of mind, soul and body.
Now the seventh and the last vow, is that they promise that they would be true and loyal to each other and would remain companions forever.
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http://myshaadi.in/main/indian-wedding-blog/view/8/The-Seven-Vows-of-Hindu-Marriage
http://trueeventindia.com/hinduism/wedding-in-india/wedding-facts/seven-vows-of-marriage-saat-pherey/
